In one of my book groups recently someone shared a definition of trauma that they had found helpful. We are not sure who to attribute this to but here it is: “Trauma is getting less than the nurture you needed.”
Wow. That includes probably all of us, at least at one time or another. With that definition, compassion comes easier. We can relate.
It is not about how huge or consequential the traumatic stress is, or how dramatic in intensity. Everyday trauma hurts a lot too. It is about the relative human condition, which seems to include needs not being met.
Anyone preoccupied with their own unmet needs, can easily hurt another too, with or without knowing it. Trauma can be caused by strangers or institutions, and sometimes is inflicted by someone who supposedly loves us. Their stinging myopia and unsolicitous disregard may not be personal. It may seem malicious, but more likely it is just an oversight, as they struggle forward with their own burdens, deficiencies, and concerns.
This is why people turn to God to have their needs met, since people don’t always selflessly nurture each other very well. God, however, heals trauma by always meeting human needs, without fail.
The inseparable, indelible connection between you and God means you are always heard, understood, cared for, approved of, and loved. You can’t get away from that spiritually, and humanly you can tap deep into that truth at anytime.
Every one of us is cherished in the palm of God’s metaphoric hand, who gives us directly all the nurturing required, as well as much that is merely desired. With God we can put the trauma down, and release it to soar instead– with the infinite, very specific, nurturing presence all around us, meeting us right where we are, with exactly what we need.
Let us bask in that safety, and live daily with the intimate oneness that includes reliable benevolence and flawless provision.