The Big Leap is an insightful book which can lead you to some ah ha moments. In it he discusses what he calls “the upper limit problem,” in which we inadvertently sabotage ourselves when we reach a point of not being comfortable with any more good. He says we have to be willing to accept that experiencing only good is a natural possibility. As we open ourselves to more good and practice being comfortable with increasing amounts of it, we’ll be led past our zone of competence into our zone of genius, where we fulfill our highest sense of actualization and authenticity.
My husband read this book aloud to me and we’d not read very far before we’d launch off into a discussion regarding one of the ideas.
Here are a few quotes from the book:
- “I’ve found that if we remove the guilt of the crimes our parents and siblings convicted us of before we walked into kindergarten, we are liberated from the main issues that trigger the Upper Limit Problem.”
- “First of all, I chose not to regard my worry-thoughts about money as actually being about money. That’s the general attitude I want you to take toward your worry thoughts in general. I want you to see them as Upper Limit symptoms, unless they are about something real that you can do something about right away.”
- “Arguments are one of the most common ways of bringing yourself down when you’ve hit your Upper Limit… If you can learn to see arguments as Upper Limit symptoms, you can make big breakthroughs in getting beyond them.”
- “Arguments are caused by two people (or two countries) racing to occupy the victim position in the relationship.”
- Here are some common Upper Limit behaviors: Worrying, Blame, Criticism, getting sick or hurt, hiding significant feelings, not keeping agreements, not speaking the truth. Notice when you do these and expand your thought to include more good instead.
- The ultimate success mantra: “I expand in abundance, success, and love everyday, as I inspire those around me to do the same.”
- “You’ll never have enough money to buy all the stuff you don’t need, and you’ll never have enough time to do all the things you don’t really want to do.”
- “Part of growing up is discarding the personas that aren’t contributing to our happiness and success in life.”
- “Where in my life am I not taking full ownership?”
- We control time, time doesn’t control us.
- “Business is ultimately a spiritual path.”
This book is a bit hyped up in parts, as he name drops the rich and famous he has worked with, but I’ll give it five stars anyway. There is enough here that if you put it into practice, it could change your life in very positive and revealing ways. I’ll be buying several copies of this to give as Christmas gifts. You might want to make a gift of these thought provoking ideas for yourself.