“Things You Don’t Need to Do Anymore:

• Giving up your space because others expect you to.
• Saying “it’s okay” when it definitely is not.
• Holding back your truth for fear of making someone else uncomfortable.
• Dismissing your pleasure as long as others are pleased.
• Handling it yourself instead of asking for what you need.
• Saying you are sorry when you have nothing to apologize for.
• Deflecting a compliment so others don’t think you’re too full of yourself.
• Letting someone else take credit for your work or idea.
• Punishing yourself for failing to meet others’ expectations.
• Playing small so that others can feel big.
• Accepting that your place is anywhere other than exactly where you damn decide it is.”

by Melissa Hartwig Urban