Don’t Feel Sorry for Yourself (New Poem by Polly Castor)

Don’t Feel Sorry for Yourself (New Poem by Polly Castor)

Don't Feel Sorry for Yourself Poem, by Polly Castor

Don’t Feel Sorry for Yourself

To feel sorry for yourself
is one of the worst things
you can do to yourself.

I’ve learned that:
thought governs our experience;
you are what you continually identify with;
and you’ll get more of what you focus on.

Looking down a downward spiral
will only whirl you further
down that downward spiral.

Think of your consciousness
as your home. If you entertain
brawling, fighting, gloomy visitors,
how will that make you feel
as opposed to benevolent,
charitable, considerate, appreciative,
magnanimously encouraging ones?

What guests do you want to be hospitable to?
What type of thoughts are you allowing in?

When you are feeling sorry for yourself,
you are welcoming imperfection and fear,
and agreeing to let them represent you.
Do you have to accept all mental pictures?
Do you have to give in to the bullies
of suffering, catastrophe, and bad choices?

Why identify with and claim
“my problem,” or “my weakness”?
when you can say vehemently no
and thrust them outside your door.
Boot out those home wreckers.
Don’t let them in.
Refuse to wallow with them.
Disconnect yourself from
whatever is distressing,
beleaguered, hopeless, and flawed.

Usher in and play hostess to
only what is good,
joyous, and harmonious,
graciously feeding them fabulously well–
pampering them and nurturing them
to be so colossally comfy and content
that they’ll companion with you always.
Then whatever used to worry you
will dwindle away
for lack of invitation
and rapport.

by Polly Castor


I work to amplify good wherever I find it. I love color, texture, beauty, great ideas, nature, metaphor, deliciousness, genuine spirituality, and exploring new territory. I encourage authenticity, nurture creativity, champion sustainability, promote peace, and hope to foster a new renaissance where we all are free to be our most fulfilled, multifaceted, and terrific selves. Read more here.


  1. Dilys 1 year ago

    Wise words, Polly! Thank you for sharing an important message in such an inspiring way. X

  2. Sue Krevitt 1 year ago

    Sure can’t get enough reminders like this! The ole blue meanies try to pry
    dey way in, all too often. But my inner-wisdom is ever at work, tossin’ em out!
    Thank God!!

    Btw, you have an extra “can” in the third line. (Can of beans? hee hee)


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      Polly Castor 1 year ago

      Thanks so much. A typo. I corrected it.

  3. Brian G 1 year ago

    Perhaps a message of hope to a younger crowd (CS or otherwise). Heed Polly’s advice, because I know the depths when you think nobody can relate.

    Are you one of the over 3.5 *billion* people that have watched and cranked Alan Walker’s “Faded” in your ‘phones or stereo? This 62 year old has – just to let you know that even if you are younger, some of us gray-beards are empathetic and not out of touch.

    It’s not the music itself that makes you sad, it’s YOU. It can serve in a positive way to help you raise that hidden red-flag and try to get it together with hope and love. And yes, I hear you across the decades, so don’t feel alone – because you aren’t! Maybe you will eventually shuffle-dance to it, while I probably won’t. (grins and love!)

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